They’ve always been there for you. And now, as you’re planning your wedding, you’ll likely need their help more than ever — here’s how to stay in tune with your best friends and keep them happy.
1. They want You to Tell them Your Expectations
2. They want You to Tell Your Other Friends about them
3. They want You to have Your Dream Wedding
4. They want You to Respect their Responsibilities
5. They Want You to Dress Them Well
If you know one of them would be uncomfortable in the dress you envision, come up with a compromise. Not sure one dress will work for all your girls? Make some guidelines (say, a color and length you like) and then let them choose the exact style. Trust us—even with different necklines or sashes, they’ll still look fantastic. Remember: You want each and every one of your bridesmaids to feel beautiful (and comfortable!), so your efforts in the dress department are well worth it.
6. They want You to Put Yourself in their Shoes
Yes, you want your bridal party to be your go-to pals when you need something (even if it’s just to vent). But that doesn’t mean you should be cracking the whip nonstop. Whenever you’re asking one of your friends if she’d be willing to help you with something — whether it’s attending your gown fitting or tying 100 miniature bows around 100 favor boxes — stop and think: Would I do this for her? It’s a good reality check to keep your requests reasonable.
7. They want You to Keep them in the Black
They have to shell out for quite a bit over the course of the wedding: dresses, hair, the shower, wedding gifts, the bachelorette party and travel expenses, to name a few. These add up and can put a pinch on even the most financially flush of bridesmaids. Take this into consideration and offer to help when you can. For example, let them know they shouldn’t feel pressured to give you an extravagant shower present, or if you’re having more than one shower, tell them you don’t expect multiple gifts.
8. They want You to Make their To-Do List Manageable
Try to come up with a game plan beforehand of who needs to do what on the wedding day. Then make a second mental list of who else can and has offered to help — aunts, cousins, ushers and so on. When little things do come up (which they will), you’ll be able to rely on that latter team to help you take care of details as needed rather than overextending your bridesmaids.
9. They want You to Stay their Friend
Obvious, right? Sometimes when you’re caught up in wedding related drama, it can be hard to remember there’s a world outside your wedding. When you meet up with one of your bridesmaids, make a point to talk about things not related to the wedding. Whether it’s the project she’s working on at work or the blind date she went on last weekend, she’ll appreciate the opportunity to tell you all about it, the same way she always has. Similarly, when you’re really upset — whether about the wedding or anything else — you’ll know she’ll be there for you, right now and long after you’ve said, “I do.”